Marriage Therapy: Creating an Outdoor Space

This project took more planning than I am capable of.

It’s a good thing my husband is so awesome. We wanted to build a pergola behind our house for years. We did it this spring, and I love it. I couldn’t be happier. In addition to the structure, we added a twin sized swing. It provides a place for rest, hanging out and reflection. We also pepped up the surrounding garden space. It has been a work in progress for a long time. It’s nice to have a quiet space for relaxing and meditating.

I spend time out there writing, reflecting and resting. I also piddle around in the garden, changing things and adding new plants. I would love to encourage all of you- find yourself a space. Find a corner in the house, a garden space outdoors or the end of the dining room and make it yours.

Economically speaking, this structure was not expensive. We tried to keep it simple and functional. Where I spent money on pressure treated wood, I saved on purchasing plants on a budget. We wanted simple and unique, and we achieved it. Like other projects, we stayed within our budget.

The best part of building this is the love poured in. It was hot. The sun was blaring from the center of the sky. John was wearing a bandana around his head to keep the sweat from running into his eyes. He had to core drill concrete. He had to measure, cut and lift the beams. He built this with my assistance, but I was minimally physically involved.

When he finished all I could do was smile. It is awesome, and I love it. But mostly, I love him. Twenty-five years of projects have taught me a few things.